There is stuff all over my house. Papers, books, blankets, toys; you name it, we probably have it somewhere. We rarely sit down to eat at the table, because it is usually covered with more stuff. Most people would probably say my house is messy. Maybe they’re right. For years I thought I was a horrible mom because of my messy house. After all, as a mother, shouldn’t I be able to keep my house neat and tidy, prepare balanced meals and snacks, and give my children all the love and support they need? At the same time, surely I should be able to be the perfect wife, right? After all, isn’t that what it means to be a good mom?
I have one word to say to this: BALONEY!!
I have been ill for most of my adult life. I wasn’t diagnosed with anything till the summer of 2000, but in retrospect I believe I have had these issues much longer. I have struggled with being the “perfect mom”, and have never actually made it. But now, after years of therapy, I think I finally get it. So this is what makes a perfect mom:
My children, who range in age from 6-19, are all reasonably healthy. They have food to eat, clothes to wear, and things to do. They are intelligent, independent, and responsible, as much as is appropriate for their ages. They are generally respectful, obedient, and honest. They play well with each other and their friends, with minimal arguments. They like to create things, build things, and do things. This makes messes, but that’s good. It means they aren’t sitting in front of the TV zoning out. They do watch TV, and they play on the internet, but generally they are very interactive about it. They’ll Skype with their friends and cousins, play online games together, and generally have fun. They also love each other, and respect their parents.
- She loves her children.
- She does her best, even if her best isn’t very much, to care for them.
- She teaches them to be good people.
- She gives them the tools or skills they need to be productive citizens.
- She ignores anyone who tries to tell her she’s not good enough, and instead trusts her instinct or her own personal faith.
- She is aware of how much energy she has, and prioritizes her life accordingly.
- She doesn’t worry if some things have to be ignored, passed by, left behind, etc, but instead focuses on what is most important for her children.
- She recognizes that what is important for one family is not necessarily important for another.
My children, who range in age from 6-19, are all reasonably healthy. They have food to eat, clothes to wear, and things to do. They are intelligent, independent, and responsible, as much as is appropriate for their ages. They are generally respectful, obedient, and honest. They play well with each other and their friends, with minimal arguments. They like to create things, build things, and do things. This makes messes, but that’s good. It means they aren’t sitting in front of the TV zoning out. They do watch TV, and they play on the internet, but generally they are very interactive about it. They’ll Skype with their friends and cousins, play online games together, and generally have fun. They also love each other, and respect their parents.
I am SUPERMOM!!
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